Category Archives: Private Practice Notes

Here is where we talk about the nitty gritty of day after day being in a room with a client in person, on the phone, or just doing the proxy work, in the absence of other practitioners with whom we can interact.
Here we can talk about how to nurture ourselves and stay connected to our best selves and peers while in the service of others.

Spring 2013 Adorns Manhattan

Every year the miracle of the rebirth of flowers and new growth thrills me. To me there is magic in just saying the word “forsythia”, in anticipating its glorious appearance which heralds the new season.

Every year I take pictures of Central Park, the streets of Manhattan and my own private garden to document the unfolding of Spring.

This year is no exception. I rejoice in my walks and I eagerly look forward to what I will discover. On my last walk through Central Park yesterday I found lilac bushes beginning to flower. Heaven!!!!

Here is what I’ve seen for the past few weeks. I’ve included one picture of my first plants, six different violas and three nemesias,  which will be planted in my container garden. There is also one shot of my clematis- one of the fastest growing plants I know.

I hope that you enjoy this as much as I do.

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The Goldilocks Principle- New Work by Gail Glanville

It is with great pleasure and excitement that I am passing on to you a new piece of work written by Resonance Repatterning Certified Practitioner Gail Glanville.

Gail is one of the primary authors of the Nun Karma Repatterning that you can always download for free from this Newsletter . Amongst many other accomplishments she is also the author of  Food Re-Patterning & Sacred Relationships.

To my delight I received an e-mail from her on April 6th which  describes her new work. I have reprinted this below my own message here so you can experience some of the power of the work for yourself.

I have been using the new work with several of my clients for the past two weeks. Here is the testimony that I sent on to Gail yesterday.

The Goldilocks Principle goes beyond the cutting edge of what is new and powerful to use with Resonance Repatterning. Its energetic potential for transformation is unlimited – because it taps into ancient behavior patterns that are primal and basic and still unique to each one of us.

It contains a perspective and emotional complexity aligned with the changes we are experiencing on our planet right now.

I consider this a new technique and have so far seen amazing results with my clients.

I urge you to consider sessions with Gail’s package of three and I recommend that all Repatterning practitioners begin at once to use this with your clients and on yourself.”

Not only is using this work yielding amazing results, but I am thrilled to be able to report that its creation seems to be at least in part results derived from an Infinity Healing session! Isn’t That Cool?!

Here is what Gail wrote to me:

When Meryl gave me an INFINITY session last winter, I was a bit anxious and wondered what it would be like. Once I relaxed into the guided visualization and her energetic support, I was lifted up to higher dimensions. I had a knowing then that certain things in my life would drop away and leave room for something new. I hadn’t a clue what that might be and sort of forgot about the session.
Now some 3 months later, there has been significant change. Funding has dried up for a non-profit client I had been writing for out of a sense of obligation rather than passion. What a relief! Then inspiration came to write The Goldilocks Principle, a simple self-help book designed to improve relationships that has gotten an immediate response. And I’ve found the courage to do something I’ve wanted to do for a long time…move to the light and warmth of southeast Florida.
Now I can see the connection. I’m here to tell you that when you want to make a significant change in your life, Meryl’s INFINITY sessions yield surprising results!

Here is the original email that Gail sent out from her company Change Bistro and underneath the Nun Karma Repatterning on this website you can now download the new no-cost e-book The Goldilocks Principle.

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NEW EBOOK:

Hey Goldilocks!

What do you know about the

3 Big Bears of Bad Relationships?

Let’s open the book and read their story.

Their names are:

Control Bear, Deprivation Bear and Rejection Bear.

Years ago, when I first met them, I thought the Control Bear was running my life, turning me into a rebel or looking for people who were comfortably controlling or seeking to be controlled.

Then I spotted the Deprivation Bear, and realized how hard it was to recognize what I really needed and trust that I could ask for help to lift my silent suffering.

But in the end, I had to acknowledge that just one swipe from the critical Rejection Bear stopped me cold, closed my heart and sent me into hiding. Or I took the opposite tack and lashed out, feeling utterly disconnected from the field of love.

So there you have them.

The 3 Big Bears of Bad Relationships: Control, Deprivation and Rejection.

They have a close kinship to each other. Maybe they’ve been in your life, one or all of them, for a very long time.

More than likely, they show up in your family history and generational patterns, in Nun Karma and emotional eating.

You may even be keeping them close out of unconscious loyalty to your entire family system.

So with these old and powerful Bears taking up space in your life, what chance do you have for a healthy relationship today, (especially in the post-2012 new energy which doesn’t love these old patterns)?

That’s why the 3 Big Bears are not to be sniffed at.

Or stuffed.

Or played around with.

And here’s why they’re so dangerous for your native Goldilocks persona.

There’s actually a part of you that is comfortable with their presence and unconsciously invites them into your life, into your home and even into your heart.

Wait! Before this happens to you AGAIN, try my “Hey Goldilocks!” Series of 3 Repatterning sessions.

So that these 3 Big Bears—

—well, so that YOU learn to name them, claim them and tame them!

In other words, Repattern them into submission!

So you, Goldilocks, wake up, stop resonating with the 3 Bears’ ancient presence in your life and step into some fresh new energy relationship stories all your own.

Because the better story is to resonate with the benefits and lessons and opportunities each Bear holds for you.

That’s what I can help you with as a Repatterning practitioner.

That’s what you can read about in this short no-cost download, THE GOLDILOCKS PRINCIPLE.

And that’s what you’ll get with the GOLDILOCKS SERIES of 3 private sessions to name, claim and tame the 3 Big Bears of Bad Relationships.

When the Bears show up in your life, please know that’s a sign of gifts waiting for you from the new energy field of truth and love.

And you want to know a secret?

You have to tame these Bears in order to sustain the open flow of love and energy in this new field.

Wouldn’t you like to start now?

1. No-Cost Download:
The Goldilocks Principle

Learn all about taming the 3 Bears, the real story of Goldilocks’ happy ending and what The Goldilocks Principle (it’s real) holds for you today.

By appointment
Session 1 Control Bear’s Opportunities
Session 2 Deprivation Bear’s Opportunities
Session 3 Rejection Bear’s Opportunities

Wouldn’t you love to tame these Bears before they take all your money, honey, joy and self-esteem?

I’d love to help you do it! Contact me now for an appointment.

Gail 401 654 1565

gail@changebistro.com

From Marc David- The Psychobiology of Chewing

Several months ago when I read Marc David’s book about  his “Slow Down Diet” I started to eat my food more slowly and with more awareness. I have remained more conscious of my pacing and  chewing even when I have little time to eat.
That being said, I was amazed when I read this article.
The information about every aspect of chewing seems so comprehensive and compelling to me that I know it has already positively impacted my whole approach to eating.
I will be  dining much more often than reverting to my old habit of simply eating food most of the time.
Hopefully you too will find this article to be fascinating.
Enjoy and Mange!!!!
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The Psychobiology of Chewing

Posted on April 10, 2013 – 6 Comments

The Psychobiology of ChewingThere’s more to chewing than you might think. It’s arguably the first digestive activity that we bring to a meal, and unlike the chemical processes that occur in our gut, chewing falls under our conscious control. Except of course, when we go a bit unconscious and inhale our food. But chewing is more than a digestive aid. It also has a potent psychological function that helps keep body, mind and emotions in balance. Consider the following:

Have you ever wondered why crunchy foods are so popular, why advertisers promote products on the basis of crunchiness – “super crunchy,” “extra crunchy,” “stays crunchy even in milk”? Have you noticed that whenever you eat your favorite brand of potato chips, pretzels, or crackers, they each have a similar degree of crunchiness? What advertisers understand and capitalize on is that crunching and chewing are primal activities, inborn urges dating back to the first life-forms that ever “crunched” on each other.

So important is the level of crunch that many years ago, potato-chip manufacturers developed a sophisticated apparatus to measure the perceived level of crunch that consumers hear in their heads. The most pleasurable decibel levels were deciphered, and potato chips were subsequently manufactured to these standard orgasmic crunch levels.

From a psychophysiologic perspective, chewing and crunching are natural outlets for inborn aggression.

Throw a piece of meat into a lion’s cage and the lion will likely roar at it, attack it and tear it apart as if it were still alive. The lion must do this because its nature is to be aggressive. But aggression here isn’t meant as some mean, vengeful act. A lion doesn’t attack a jackrabbit because of hate. Quite the contrary, the lion attacks because it loves the jackrabbit.

Like the lion, human beings have a distinct measure of innate aggression, and developmental psychologists often see this energy as first experienced through the infant’s desire to bite. Psychologists call the original oral-aggressive act the “hanging-on bite” to the breast. This is a biting that establishes confluence with the mother. The baby must actively hold on for nourishment and will often keep holding on even when mama has had enough. The tension it experiences when separated from the mother before it’s fully satisfied is typically expressed through crying, screaming and facial contortions.

In the many body-oriented disciplines and psychologies, the jaw is associated with anger and aggression. When these emotions are habitually withheld and left unexpressed, they may become “frozen” on the face as a perpetually clenched jaw or tightened musculature resembling a scowl. Just as a dog clenches its teeth when angered or challenged, so too do human beings channel aggression through the face. From an evolutionary perspective, the process of biting and chewing allows for the release of what psychologists call dental aggressive urges.

Many people habitually fail to chew, swallowing their food almost whole.

They tend to derive pleasure not so much from the taste and texture of the food as from the velocity at which it’s eaten. In such instances we deny an important, natural outlet for tension and fail to experience full satisfaction from a meal. In an effort to free the unreleased tension, we may continue to eat past the point of satiation, turn to other oral based habits like gum chewing, or simply internalize the tension, allowing it to build over time and eventually express itself in chronic emotional or biological symptoms. For many people, TMJ is the result of unexpressed anger that’s looking for an outlet.

On another level, by swallowing food whole, we make a statement about the way we approach the world. We want our hungers in life satisfied but aren’t fully willing to take the necessary steps. This need for immediate gratification is reflected in our refusal to chew. Ironically, a side effect of the short-cut method of not chewing is more hunger. Chewing and tasting are basic to hunger satisfaction. When we limit these simple gustatory requirements, the brain screams for more food. Taste, texture, and satisfaction are literal nutritional requirements.

In one fascinating experiment, scientists deprived a group of test rats the sensation of taste. This group of “tasteless” rats, along with a control group, were placed on a normal rat diet. Both groups ate the same amount of food, and in a short time the taste-deprived rats all died. When the rats were autopsied, researchers could only find one cause of death – clinical rat malnutrition. The scientists could come up with only one explanation – that there are important yet unknown physiological connections between taste and health. Similarly, hospital patients fed intravenously or through feeding tubes that bypass the mouth often report a nagging hunger for taste, and can experience digestive, immune and other health issues. Though the mechanisms that govern these phenomena are little understood, this much is certain: to be fully nourished by food, we must experience it through tasting and chewing

In a comparable manner, to be fully nourished by any experience, we must “taste” and “chew” it thoroughly.

It’s no accident that many of the words we use to describe eating are the same ones used to describe the thinking process. When presented with an idea, the mind will first grasp it and “chew” on it. Our conscious mind breaks it down into its component parts, “tastes” it, then “swallows” it into the subconscious for final “assimilation”. When we accept something without “ruminating” over it or when we swallow something “hook, line and sinker,” or when “biting off more than we can chew,” what we say in our metaphoric language is that just as food works with digestion, so too do perceptions work with the mind. Improper chewing of food or ideas are equally disturbing to our system.

The mouth deserves our nutritional respect. It’s the first step in the digestive process. Here the chemical digestion of starches is initiated with amylase, an enzyme that breaks down the complex carbohydrate molecules in a well-salivated mouth. The mechanical digestion of food is also initiated in the mouth with the process of chewing. The surface area increases as the food is broken down into smaller and smaller pieces. When the food reaches the stomach, the number of molecules exposed to the stomach’s acid and enzymatic environment is maximized.

If we swallow something whole, such as a piece of meat, an abnormal series of events occurs. First the stomach must churn the meat with its own muscular movements to help break it down into smaller pieces, a function it’s not ideally designed to do. Next, we go through the lengthy chemical process of breaking down large pieces of food. Because we started with one large bite, only the surface of the meat remains exposed to the stomach’s digestive juices. To digest the meat further, the stomach may secrete more acid than normal. This irritates the stomach lining, which is the reason many eaters experience acid indigestion. The condition is exacerbated if the food is high in protein. The greater the protein content of the food, the higher the level of stomach acidity required to digest it.

Chewing is a “pacesetter”. Whatever speed and number of times we chew sets in motion a rhythm that our entire body adopts. By chewing rapidly and insufficiently, we initiate an unsettled frame of mind that is reflected in the body as uncomfortable sensations in the digestive system. Chewing at a moderate to slow rate promotes a relaxed, grounded demeanor and for many, a noticeable stronger metabolism

Full chewing need not be a discipline, but can occur spontaneously simply by eating with relaxed awareness, and settling in to an attitude of nourishment with our meals. Rather than concentrate on chewing food, eat your food, savor it, delight in it, and let chewing be a natural part of the eating process.

Can you see how chewing is more than just a digestive activity? Do you have your own personal story of how chewing food is a metaphor for how we munch on life?

Warmest regards,

Marc David

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